One Question:
What means "to be in D/s"?!? ...
D/s is Dominance and submission. It's an overall category for
the areas known as Bondage and Discipline (B & D), and Sadism and Masochism (S &
M). Certain people in the world, because of their chemical makeup and/or life experiences,
have learned to enjoy pain in an erotic situation. Others of us have, because of life
experiences, learned to enjoy giving pain in an erotic situation. That's S & M. It's
always consensual, and the bottom, or submissive, or masochist, (they can mean the same),
has ultimate control because they have a safeword that can stop anything the top, or
dominant, or sadist, (they can mean the same thing), is doing. Most of what you read is
not true about D/s. It's bywords are "Safe, Sane, and Consensual." Btw, GrPaDSade stands for Grand Pa De Sade, as in the Marquis De Sade.
Any and all questions are welcome.
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Here is my answer to "what is D/s?"
It means to me a loving and consensual relationship between
two or more people where one is Dominant and
sets the rules....and the other is submissive
and obeys those set rules. Now the clincher is before any play the limits are
set...this means what is ok, like maybe bondage and what is NOT ok like let's say whipping
the feet. So it is up to the Dom to tie up the submissive to be within the
submissive comfortable standards and then play until they both drop from
exhaustion/pleasure. This takes place in frames of 15 mins to 24 hours a
day. Some just do it in bedrooms, some in life, some just at parties. Some in
public.
What is this to me is a lifestyle choice, to be submissive to the Owner GrPaDSade (who is Dom only), but at times to Dom others (I am a Switch which means I do both). It is MY choice, there is no force on me. I can up and leave anytime. When he bounds me, I can undo it...the thing is I don't because I want to be there....
D/s is a choice, and for me...it is the only choice.
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BTW we both highly recommend reading on what true D/s is......we have read many books, and
like many feel the best and most entertaining book on the basics of D/s is "Screw the
Roses, Send Me the Thorns" if not in your local bookstore, it can be ordered.