A Question of TrainingKttN I have questions and personal fears, let me make it clear that they are my fears and what is for me may not be for others. I just want to start with a question to the below statement. I think my questions are based on what happens if you are in love, not just love, but in love with your submissive. Or does falling in love never become a factor in Training. I also believe that the deep love between a Master and slave takes you to a whole other level that can't be touched and that when you are in love, there are just things you cannot do, that aren't possible without some hurt. But even with a little hurt, pride in knowing it can be done is also a factor, I am not sure. The below statement I feel represents the submissives willingness to do anything for her dominant, at least in my experience it has meant this. I prefer bisexual women. Anyone who seeks my collar will be prepared to be of sexual - or any use- to anyone I choose. I had a past dominant that used to give me to couple to use on numerous occasions. I was not in love with him. I am very sexually open and always have been, and this experience opened me more and I cherish my time with him and the times he gave me away. It brought me great pride in pleasing him by pleasing the couple. And as human nature would have it, it was very pleasing sexually to me. My current dominant asked how I would feel if he gave me to another to use. I told him that of course I would go and I would make him proud of me, that the other would definitely enjoy themselves. I then told him that I wouldn't be able to cum, but this in no way would take away from their enjoyment. He then asked what if he told me to cum for the other. I had to think hard on this, i finally said that I probably could, but only with tears in my eyes. We both thought hard on this, see there is mutual love between us. And I am already well trained to his pleasure. The above two experience were vastly different in my feelings, and they both have their places depending on the relationships. Many say in training a slave that there is no place for falling in love on the dominants part. Yes you can love your property, but can you be in love with it? Are your submissives kept at a certain distance to insure that they don't fall in love? On that one day that she looks deep into your eyes full of love and passion, does your heart soften only to harden later? Being in love is a wondrous feeling and true love experienced by so few.... but is there a place for it in a training household? Have those of you who train and are trained prepared for the day when love and sexual pleasure (as opposed to service) become mutual? If you see your submissive falling in love, do you stop it or encourage it? What as a trainer do you find to be the most kind? Told you I had a lot of questions. But as a submissive I would imagine I would also have fears in a training situation. My first fear would be that I would hold back, that I would be afraid to let my emotions soar. Fear that if my dominant felt I was falling in love he would let me go, fear that if I fell in love I would leave so as not to hurt myself or disappoint him. I may be wrong in my interpretation of what I have read of Training in this thread. But from what I have read, while there may be shared loved, there is not the deep love that both mutually surrender to. That opening to such a surrender to the passion where love, sex and spirituality become one by both Master and slave is seen as a weakness in both. I understand the notion of "obedience first" and that is no longer for me, I have grown beyond that, no matter who I am with. To me training can serve a purpose, but honestly what safeguards are taken against natural emotions happening? Take care, KttN |