How Does Fantasy and Role Play fit into the BDSM lifestyle

********** 7/5/98  5:01 PM Begin logging Sub Pub - D/s.
     Lord E & Lady A | good evening my dear
     Lord E & Lady A | goodevening GPDS
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Good evening LE & LA
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Hello fit
     Lord E & Lady A | for a minute I thought I had crashed, hi fit
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Hi kim
      fit to be tied | hugssss to NS and GrPa... i checked out your wed 
                     | site this week... i am VERY
      fit to be tied | impressed
      fit to be tied | hi LE and LA..<g>
     Lord E & Lady A | hello kim
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Thank you,
*Night Spirit [HOST] | huggers fit and Lord Ea dn Lady Lucky
      fit to be tied | web even
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | NS did all the work on it
      fit to be tied | <---- having a really bad typing day so please bear 
                     | with
     Lord E & Lady A | <s> thanks NS
      fit to be tied | well the site is beautiful and very informative
                 kim | hi...nice to be here...though i am not normally 
                     | awake at this hour! lol
     Lord E & Lady A | I am going to take LA there while she is here
*Night Spirit [HOST] | fit thank you <blush>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | You must be in europe kim
      fit to be tied | huggsss kimmie..<G>
                 kim | yes..are collars allowed in this forum?
*Night Spirit [HOST] | yes kim they sure are
     Lord E & Lady A | join the band of euros kim, <s> hi daisy
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Yes, of course
               daisy | Greetings to all
      fit to be tied | hugs diaz
*Night Spirit [HOST] | hiya daisy
      fit to be tied | what time is it there kimmie?
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Hi daisy
         NH's kímmie | its 2 am
      fit to be tied | <g>
         NH's kímmie | i think i have jetlag...lol
      fit to be tied | <laffin>
      fit to be tied | i hear you talking about the bondage tape earlier
              Dakini | evening all
      fit to be tied | heard
      fit to be tied | hey Dak
         NH's kímmie | oh yes....it is amazing stuff!
     Lord E & Lady A | hi Dak
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Kim, notice LE & LA are together, and NS belongs to 
                     | me. So the answer sure is
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | yes.
               daisy | Greets Dak
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Hi Dak
              Dakini | :)
              Dakini | nice to see you all again im not usualy up at this 
                     | time
              Dakini | havent been to one of these conferences for months
      fit to be tied | hmmmm that is what kimmie just said
         NH's kímmie | thank you GrandPaDeSade.......i know 
                     | fit..daisy...and i just spent the weekend
         NH's kímmie | in the UK with Dakini<S>
              Dakini | <s>
              Dakini | hope the futon wasnt too hard
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Tonight's CO is about Fantasy, role Playing and 
                     | even wearing costumes
      fit to be tied | <perk>
                Lynn | I'm here <s> hello all
         NH's kímmie | oh..fantasy......mmmmm
         NH's kímmie | <hug> Lynn!
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Hi Lynn
              Dakini | <drifts of into fantasy world>
                Lynn | huggs kimmie love! smooch
         NH's kímmie | i have this fantasy about sleeping on a cold hard 
                     | floor....
                Lynn | hello GrandPa <s>
              Dakini | lol kim
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Don't drift off just yet Dak, wait til we get 
                     | started.
         NH's kímmie | but Dakini made me sleep on a futon and i think 
                     | that fantasy is just not so
         NH's kímmie | lovely anymre
*Night Spirit [HOST] | <--loves GrPa in a cape, and nothing else nibbling 
                     | on me
           GeorgeOTJ | <sneaks in>
                Lynn | <s> NS
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Or in a suit NS?
                Lynn | Hugs George <s>
      fit to be tied | mmmmmmmm suits are wonderful
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Hi George
           GeorgeOTJ | (((((Lynn)))))
               daisy | <wink at that cutie George>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | oh yes baby, I love GrPa in a suit, and he comes in 
                     | ties my hands with his
*Night Spirit [HOST] | necktie
           GeorgeOTJ | Hello all
*Night Spirit [HOST] | yummy
     Lord E & Lady A | hi George
         NH's kímmie | hey George!! <hugssssss>
                Lynn | <likes the lumber jack type herself.. all sweaty
*Night Spirit [HOST] | I used to own a costume shop--it is wild to dress 
                     | up and play
     Lord E & Lady A | excuse the delays all LA is being punished <weg>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | anyone here ever dress in a french maid outfit for 
                     | fun?
                Lynn | I wear just the apron, NS and make breakfast.. <s>
      fit to be tied | nope..... but think that could be great fun
           GeorgeOTJ | <Tempeted to sing the Monty Phython version of "I
           GeorgeOTJ | am a lumberjack and I'm okay">
                Lynn | lol
     Lord E & Lady A | oh breakfast, Mh thats and idea
              Dakini | some places dont let you dress in certain uniforms 
                     | such as nazi gear
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dakini such as?--you mean D/s type clubs?
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Yes, NS, I have. (That'll give you something to 
                     | think anout. A dom in a french
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | maid outfit.)
              Dakini | they kind of become more erotic than ever then
      fit to be tied | ROFL
           GeorgeOTJ | I love the dramatics of dress up. To me the appearal
           GeorgeOTJ | is like ribbons on the present
         NH's kímmie | i think thats about the only uniform that a club 
                     | doesn't allow
                Lynn | lol
              Dakini | yes night spirit
     Lord E & Lady A | lol
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | A generic military uniform works too.
         NH's kímmie | i know a Dom who wears a complete Scout Master 
                     | uniform to play in sometimes
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ok let's discuss dress up--who hear does it to get 
                     | the other member to--explore
*Night Spirit [HOST] | a role or fantasy?
*Night Spirit [HOST] | kimmie I want a photo of that <thinking nasty 
                     | thoughts>
                Lynn | I do strange things to entice my husand..
         NH's kímmie | and one who has a NYC cop uniforn......and  CHIPS 
                     | one too
     Lord E & Lady A | LA likes knights and maidens
              Dakini | lol
   Hot lips!!!!!!!!! | hellooooooo thereeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
   Hot lips!!!!!!!!! | what is sub pub?
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | We have dresses in old midevil costumes fairly 
                     | often.
*Night Spirit [HOST] | like what Lynn?
           GeorgeOTJ | I'd gladly dress for an occasion if M'lady wished it
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | dressed even
              Dakini | but you can enter the fantasy and role play without 
                     | costumes i find
                Lynn | well.. NS>. I may call him and ask him to meet me
                Lynn | at a bar..for lunch
*Night Spirit [HOST] | hot lips welcome to the sub pub weekly discussion 
                     | today's topic is role playing
*Night Spirit [HOST] | and fantsy in D/s
   Hot lips!!!!!!!!! | do we have no manners here?
                Lynn | and when he arrives. I am dressed like a hooker
                Lynn | and sitting at the bar
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dakini I totally agree
           GeorgeOTJ | Hello Hot lips, welcome
               daisy | <Smiling>
              Dakini | its cheaper too :)
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Hot lips there is a discussion group going on
                Lynn | or...meet him at the door..wrapped in saran wrap
                Lynn | and a big bow on my ample chest.. lol
     Lord E & Lady A | are you talking to LA George? if so she won't 
                     | answer she is under punishment
     Lord E & Lady A | for last weeks oputburst
     Lord E & Lady A | outburst even
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Hot Lips see message above from me
       MoL's Katie J | <has Hot Lips in pc
       burning ember | hugggggs all!!
           GeorgeOTJ | Talking to Hot lips Lord E, thanks for the tip 
                     | though
           GeorgeOTJ | <S>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | oh Lynn I love it and hugs and licks sweety little 
                     | sis and thanks
   Master of Leisure | has katie in pc..<weg>
                Lynn | <s> NS
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Thanks Katie
                Lynn | welcome
*Night Spirit [HOST] | hugs ember and welcome :)
       burning ember | huggggs NS & GPDS : )
               daisy | <smooch< lil d
                Lynn | <S@ ember > huggs sweetie
       burning ember | kisss big D
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Lynn what is his reaction to these outfits?
              Dakini | hello ember
     Lord E & Lady A | hi ember and Katie
       burning ember | »»`*"*¤»»¸,«¤ş*ş¤»,¸««¤Lynn¤»»¸,«¤ş*ş¤»,¸««¤*"*´««
         NH's kímmie | <<<<ember>>>>
       burning ember | <hugggs Daki>
                Lynn | well.. it's a *good* one, NS>.
                Lynn | <giggling
       burning ember | Kimmie!!! <kissss>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Causes a nice picture in my mind Lynn
       burning ember | ok all enough hugging done <S>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dakini let's here your role playing idea--without 
                     | costumes that you like
         NH's kímmie | i find that no mater what i do with my hubby..he 
                     | always just wants to get the
         NH's kímmie | clothes off...<pouting>
                Lynn | he's ill.. but I think it helps him remain more 
                     | normal.
       burning ember | lol
                Lynn | like healthy folk
       MoL's Katie J | what kind of role playing do you like?
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | without costumes?
              Dakini | well i used to get my female sub to play a school 
                     | girl, it didnt seem to matter
              Dakini | that she wasnt dresed as one
     Lord E & Lady A | thats a shame its more erotic when you leave 
                     | something on
*Night Spirit [HOST] | kimmi I like them to take my clothes off slowly, 
                     | touching and kissing not just
*Night Spirit [HOST] | oull off (well not always)
       burning ember | <~liked dressing as nurse last weekend ... that 
                     | looked cute <S>
           GeorgeOTJ | I do try and find something very masculine to wear
           GeorgeOTJ | for M'lady. As Lynn said, flannel shirts seem to 
                     | make
           GeorgeOTJ | a lasting image in her mind. Tool belts, hard hats,
              Dakini | ripping clothes of is great though
           GeorgeOTJ | the typical male stripper things.
     Lord E & Lady A | just like LA NS
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dakini I like that one too
         NH's kímmie | i know.....a pair of panties around the ankles can 
                     | be very erotic<s>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | I tend to like to have NS undressed (and available) 
                     | as much as possible. that
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | makes it more exciting when she wears a costume too.
                Lynn | <perks> love that macho man thang
              Dakini | a ripped pair is even better kim :)
              Dakini | i like to keep old clothes around to be ripped off
       burning ember | <perk>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | well I shop at goodwill sometimes and buy cheap 
                     | clothes for GrPa to rip off
         NH's kímmie | sometimes i wear tights.....because they CAN be 
                     | torn open...
     Lord E & Lady A | now Dak thats something I like to do have LA do so 
                     | I can rip them of
*Night Spirit [HOST] | oh kimmi good idea
   Hot lips!!!!!!!!! | hummmmmm,,,,,,,,,
           GeorgeOTJ | <G> EVERYthing can be torn dear
   Hot lips!!!!!!!!! | what did I walk into?
              Dakini | hmmmm too exciting
         NH's kímmie | hot lips..its a discussion .......
              Dakini | yes george but you dont want to have your expensive 
                     | silk dress torn off
   Hot lips!!!!!!!!! | <not expecting an answer
                Lynn | I can't tear everything..<pouts>
         NH's kímmie | cling film is fun to rip off
       burning ember | lol ... frightening thought of george in a silk 
                     | dress
       burning ember | eeeeek
       burning ember | :ox
         NH's kímmie | saran wrap i should say
              Dakini | lol ember
           GeorgeOTJ | LOL
       burning ember | <g>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Using a knife to cut cloths off can be fun too. But 
                     | you need to make sure the
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | sunject is not struggling then. Knife wounds spoil 
                     | the heck out of a scene.
   Hot lips!!!!!!!!! | sorry,,, but you guys suck
   Hot lips!!!!!!!!! | ciao
           GeorgeOTJ | <sigh> always a bridesmaid...
                Lynn | <has 103 teddys....don't mind them being cut or
                Lynn | ripped off.. <weg>
       burning ember | <~only sucks my Master
               daisy | 103?
       burning ember | lol
                Lynn | yep dais
       burning ember | lmao George
   Hot lips!!!!!!!!! | master?
                Lynn | <the lingerie QUEEN
   Hot lips!!!!!!!!! | grow up
       MoL's Katie J | sucking can be a good part of a roleplay
               daisy | <eyes wide> <thinking i have A LOT to learn><G>
         NH's kímmie | bye hot lips
       burning ember | oh dear
     Lord E & Lady A | LA nods in agreement ember
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Hot lips, leave
       burning ember | thought u were leaving Hot Lips??
*Night Spirit [HOST] | she did
           GeorgeOTJ | Yes.....good bye Hot lips
     Lord E & Lady A | clapiing GPDS
       burning ember | phew
*Night Spirit [HOST] | hot lips had to go
                Lynn | lol
         NH's kímmie | sheeeeesh
         NH's kímmie | lol
              Dakini | i used to torture my sisters teddy bears in front 
                     | of her, she got   quite upset
              Dakini | as i was mean to them, i guess it was a bit nasty, 
                     | she was tied to the garden
              Dakini | apple tree at the time
       burning ember | ROFL Dak
                Lynn | lol Dak
           GeorgeOTJ | <smirk>
     Lord E & Lady A | lol Dak
         NH's kímmie | that is truly sadistic Dak..hehehe
       burning ember | <~funnily enough can imagine Dak doing that
              Dakini | i know i feel bad about it now
         NH's kímmie | me too ember
       burning ember | u do???
              Dakini | she loved those bears
       burning ember | sheesh that spolis it all Dak
*Night Spirit [HOST] | oh who here still plays cowboys and indians or ties 
                     | maidens to railroad tracks?
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Or would like too.
       burning ember | <coff> cant say i do
           GeorgeOTJ | Okay....what images of Doms leave lasting images
           GeorgeOTJ | in the minds of subbies?
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dakini buty her one now--she'd love it
         NH's kímmie | lol..sounds a bit dangerous
       burning ember | leather pants George!!! LoL
         NH's kímmie | i adore steel toed work boots and thick wool socks
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | There are RR tracks that are not in use any more.
*Night Spirit [HOST] | oh tight leather pants--tight pants--just tight--ok 
                     | naked
              Dakini | yes i could get her one of those leather ones <adds 
                     | it to her shopping list>
              Dakini | they are harder to knock the stuffing out of <s>
           GeorgeOTJ | <taking notes fevorishly>
       burning ember | oooo NS!!
       burning ember | a Dom w/ a crop <g>
              Dakini | i always think doms look nice in leather thongs and 
                     | nothing else lol
           GeorgeOTJ | Where Lynn? Where can I find a pair of leather pants
           GeorgeOTJ | to fit?
       burning ember | always leaves a lasting image... if not a lasting 
                     | mark lol
              Dakini | ankle braklets look nice on them too
                Lynn | George honey...I have NO idea <s>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | We do try for the lasting marks when subs enjoy 
                     | them.
*Night Spirit [HOST] | hair all over the chest back..legs and oh god a Dom 
                     | with a hairy butt
       burning ember | <~doesnt like them too much... some are pretty... 
                     | others not
               daisy | <giggling> Exile is SO hairy
       burning ember | breathe NS breathe lol
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | How about describing one of our vampire scenes NS?
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ok anyone like to play pirates or slave traders
         NH's kímmie | ohhhhh pirates!!!
           GeorgeOTJ | ARRRRG!!
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | I see we are thinking along the same lines NS
           GeorgeOTJ | <used to wear an eye patch not by choice
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ok Allyn is naked, in a cape only, crawls up the 
                     | bed and slowly strips me, and
       burning ember | oooh NS.. i have to say i read the website... your 
                     | vampire section... and by the end i was
       burning ember | thoroughly intrigued....<not to mention wet> lol
*Night Spirit [HOST] | nibbles everywhere, sometimes leaving marks
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Slave traders can be lots of fun.
         NH's kímmie | we did a bit of that last week at the party...we 
                     | strung ropes all over the huge
         NH's kímmie | bed and it was like a pirate ship
       burning ember | uh huh it was Kimmie <S>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember thanks I plan to add a section to it of NS's 
                     | adventures in erotic
         NH's kímmie | especially with the Master climbing the ropes like 
                     | sails!
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | NS gets lots of marks when we play vampire.
           GeorgeOTJ | I still say we should have a slave or Dom auction 
                     | for
           GeorgeOTJ | a children's charity <S>
       burning ember | lol kimmie... like ML?
         NH's kímmie | mmmmmmmmmm
       burning ember | lol mmm too
                Lynn | what do I do with all the Doms I buy
                Lynn | George?<laffin>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | oh I like be nibbles by my knee, my thighs, ankles, 
                     | betwwen my legs, tummy,
*Night Spirit [HOST] | chest, neck, arms back of neck and back, butt--it 
                     | gets hotter and wilder--yep I
*Night Spirit [HOST] | get marked
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Or what do they do to you Lynn?
           GeorgeOTJ | <winks> You'd go broke wouldn't you Lynn
                Lynn | <giggling>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | hey maybe in Sept. for all those comming here 
                     | should have a slave auction???????
       burning ember | <~filling out bank loan application form... 
                     | "Reason: Buying Doms at auction"   think i'd get 
                     | it??
                Lynn | yeah George.. I just might>><checks depth of
                Lynn | checkbook> oh well.. there's always a home equity
                Lynn | loan
      fit to be tied | <perk>
     Lord E & Lady A | sorry NS no chance
           GeorgeOTJ | ROFL
              Dakini | thats a good idea NS
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Lord E have Lady A when she is off restriction 
                     | check the party site for games
*Night Spirit [HOST] | we plan to play
         NH's kímmie | thats a good idea if our Masters agree
               daisy | <giggling>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Lord E I would love to buy you <wink>
       burning ember | agreed Kimmie - it would be good for you all
           GeorgeOTJ | Someone fill me in about Sept. later please
     Lord E & Lady A | will do NS
         NH's kímmie | i will be there in Sept....with my Master<S>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Obviously it would have to be with the masters 
                     | approval.
     Lord E & Lady A | oh dear LA is struggling in her chains NS
       burning ember | lucky kimmie <g>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | well Lord E even if slave is bought she is owned no 
                     | matter what is done must
*Night Spirit [HOST] | meet with the Owners approval
              Dakini | does anyone know the dates for the floxom event
       burning ember | heck ya might get $10 for me lol
     Lord E & Lady A | no lends fantasy or real, she's mine
       burning ember | oooer
         NH's kímmie | i'd bid for you ember..you ahve great hands 
                     | hon<smooch>
                Lynn | I'll buy you ember.. <s> just for your huggs honey
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Folsom is the last sunday in Sept. if that's what 
                     | you meant.
       burning ember | <blushee>
       burning ember | <kiss kimmie>
       burning ember | 27th Sept
              Dakini | i thougth it was on for a whole week ?
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | burning, I don't think you'd have much of a problem
       burning ember | not sure about that GPDS LoL
              Dakini | depends who the highest bidder is grand <s>
       burning ember | <~going for $15 ... takers?
       burning ember | lol
*Night Spirit [HOST] | the events so far for here are Thurs, Fri, Sat. and 
                     | sunday if more people
*Night Spirit [HOST] | replay via the website it can grow
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Depends on what I meant be problem too. I meant 
                     | getting someone to bid.
         NH's kímmie | well...i don't think i'd come all the way from 
                     | Amsterdam just for one day---lol
       burning ember | lol
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember ever play school girl?
              Dakini | i heard it was a whole week kim
       burning ember | yes....
         NH's kímmie | i saw ember in nurses uniform last week,.....hummm
       burning ember | love that <S>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | what happened?
              Dakini | i wouldnt come for just a day either
       burning ember | <~liked the nursey uniform best!
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | The main event is Sunday, but there are events all 
                     | weekend.
*Night Spirit [HOST] | so far it is thurs-sunday
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember tell us about that
              Dakini | the only rp outfits i dont like are baby gear
              Dakini | but many do a lot
       burning ember | about school girl or nurse?
         NH's kímmie | we kept ember running around looking for the KY 
                     | jelly
           GeorgeOTJ | <loves stiletto heels with a passion, no not on 
                     | these
           GeorgeOTJ | size 13 feet you silly subbies>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | nurse since you seem to wear it just recently
       burning ember | lololol kimmie
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember and kimmie--details
       burning ember | well in general.. i think the outfit really 
                     | enhances the mood....
       burning ember | <coff-blush-giggle>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | nurse, I'm suddenly sick and need attention.
*Night Spirit [HOST] | is the uniform--short?
       burning ember | <eg>
         NH's kímmie | the people who took the tent down asked what kind 
                     | of party it was when they
         NH's kímmie | discovered a whole box of latex medical gloves in a 
                     | corner!!!
              Dakini | i cant imagine any femdoms really finding their 
                     | male subs attractive dressed in
              Dakini | baby gear, they must do it just for them
       burning ember | yes NS.....
         NH's kímmie | ember wore a cute white "red cross' uniform
       burning ember | it is a white short dress... zip up the front... 
                     | quite see through...
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Dak, if you can think of it, someone, somewhere, 
                     | likes it.
       burning ember | with a red cross : )
           GeorgeOTJ | x marks the spot?
       burning ember | lol
              Dakini | true grand, just i cant imagine it being erotic 
                     | myself
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dakini when I Domme I like my male subs with a 
                     | lovely poodle collar
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | If we all felt the same, it'd be a dull world.
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember should post it
         NH's kímmie | yes she should<S>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | No, it's a cross, as on the maps to signify "you 
                     | are here"
              Dakini | my point was though that i dont think they DO find 
                     | it errotic and that thats
              Dakini | fine just to occasionaly do it for someone else ?
       burning ember | i think the whole idea of Parent/child fantasies 
                     | are to re-inact paedolphile acts.. which can be
       burning ember | good for some people....
       burning ember | i dont like the outfits
       burning ember | but i can understand the mentality
              Dakini | but baby gear !
           GeorgeOTJ | I can understand that GPDS, I often get lost when
           GeorgeOTJ | M'lady wears outfits
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | No, I have talked to some. they do find it very 
                     | erotic.
         NH's kímmie | of course they find it erotic Dak
              Dakini | i can see what the "baby" gets out of it but not 
                     | the mummy
       burning ember | i dont have a picture of me in the nurses uniform : 
                     | ((((
         NH's kímmie | don't be silly
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Maternal instincts?
       burning ember | oh i can Dak....
*Night Spirit [HOST] | yeah but alot of us do school girl and teacher---I 
                     | like to have my dress lifted
*Night Spirit [HOST] | and spanked but I do not think GrPa is thinking of 
                     | sex with kids he is thinking
*Night Spirit [HOST] | of it with me dressed silly
         NH's kímmie | i could find mommy roles erotic
              Dakini | well kim !
       burning ember | i can definitely see what they get out of the 
                     | roles... but not the costume...
              Dakini | i know that :)
         NH's kímmie | then why doubt that others find it erotic?
*Night Spirit [HOST] | hey just cuz some of us don't doesn't mean it is 
                     | wrong--we all have our thing
       burning ember | <~~~reallys gets off on the Daddy/little girl role 
                     | play
*Night Spirit [HOST] | I like vampires
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Let's go one step further. Some like to dirty their 
                     | pants, and other's like to
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | change them. that would be a turnoff for me.
              Dakini | i doubt that as many do as the ones who dress as    
                     |  babys
              Dakini | find it erotic i mean
       burning ember | did u see the Baby clothes stall at smithys Dak?
         NH's kímmie | i think you are wrong<s>
              Dakini | i never said anything about wrong ns
       burning ember | <~didnt find it appealing.... but each to their own 
                     | : )
              Dakini | yes i did ember
       burning ember | another thing is the act of humiliation with the 
                     | baby outfits i believe...
              Dakini | but then i find the idea of toilet sex a turn of too
*Night Spirit [HOST] | personally I love licking, bites, nibbles but some 
                     | think I am nuts--ok most of
*Night Spirit [HOST] | you do
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Dak, we are all different. I can't understand where 
                     | a lot of people are coming
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | from, but that doesn't meant their feeling are not 
                     | genuine.
*Night Spirit [HOST] | let's get back to ember as a nurse
               daisy | <thinking of the frilly little girl panties>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | --you have a hat?
           GeorgeOTJ | Okay, what about the sleazy outfits? Who likes those
           GeorgeOTJ | as opposed to baby, mother, etc?
              Dakini | i wasnt saying they were not grand
       burning ember | lol ooooo please : )
*Night Spirit [HOST] | oh daisy
       burning ember | no i didnt have a hat : (
         NH's kímmie | nurses sometimes have to empty the bedpans<weg>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | oh I like slut clothes and my favorite--lingerine
               daisy | yes NS?
       burning ember | <~doesnt have a pic of me in the uniform
       burning ember | sadly
           GeorgeOTJ | I prefer the slut outfits myself
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | OK Dak
*Night Spirit [HOST] | the panties daisy--like the thought
*Night Spirit [HOST] | I like lace
               daisy | <S> i am very young and i like to play that up
       burning ember | heck i am a slut - i dont need an outfit to prove 
                     | it <g> .. but yeah it helps
           GeorgeOTJ | I knew I liked you ember <S>
               daisy | pig tails and such<S>
       burning ember | lol
       burning ember | i love that daisy......
       burning ember | i do like the Daddy/ little girl roleplay
       burning ember | that does it for me <g>
               daisy | me too....<S>
              Dakini | but i think people often go along with fantasys/ 
                     | roles that they perhaps do not
              Dakini | find as erotic as their partners do, its great when 
                     | you share the same fantasy,
              Dakini | but if one  has a hot spot for a particular 
                     | fantasy, is it a good idea to go
              Dakini | along with it just cos your dom/me/ sub wants to ?
       burning ember | yes... its all about giving and taking : )
       burning ember | imho anyway
       burning ember | comprimsing....
              Dakini | well there are certain roles i wouldnt do no matter 
                     | how much the sub/ dom
           GeorgeOTJ | Agreed
              Dakini | wanted to
*Night Spirit [HOST] | yes Dakini---all realtionships are give and take 
                     | and most of us want to see our
*Night Spirit [HOST] | partners happy
           Baby Girl | hi guys
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | RememberDak, that people who think alike tend to 
                     | seek and find each other.
           GeorgeOTJ | Hello BG, welcome
       burning ember | nice nick Baby!
           Baby Girl | thank u
              Dakini | but if your partner has a fantasy that is a turn of 
                     | for you it could become a
              Dakini | problem
               daisy | Exile is very much a *caregiver* in our 
                     | relationship anyway
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | True. But that's why we talk
              Dakini | im just imagining being with a sub who suddenly 
                     | decides he wants to explore his
              Dakini | baby side, i dont think i would do it
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | NS likes blood sports, I don't. So we don't do them 
                     | together.
       burning ember | depends what role you are playing i believe... as a 
                     | sub i wouldnt complain and i would find
       burning ember | enjoyment in that act that "might have put me 
                     | off"... because my Dom/me finds pleasure in it
*Night Spirit [HOST] | GrandPa likes certain things--does nothing for 
                     | me--I do it because it makes him
*Night Spirit [HOST] | happy--thus I am
              Dakini | spoken like a perfect sub ember <s>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | That's why communication is so important. But, most 
                     | submissives want to please
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | the dom.
               daisy | <nod>
       burning ember | <giggles> Dak : )
       burning ember | its not even wanting to please the Dom i think 
                     | GP...... its finding pleasure that they find 
                     | pleasure in
       burning ember | it....
           GeorgeOTJ | That's a beautiful gift to give, helping to fulfill
           GeorgeOTJ | another's fantasy when it's not part of yours.
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Agree burning.
              Dakini | although had my sister enjoyed me torturing her 
                     | teddy bears it wouldnt have
              Dakini | been  half as much fun
         NH's kímmie | it is pretty amazing how our boundaries are 
                     | stretched as subs when our Doms
         NH's kímmie | handle us properly
       burning ember | very true kimmie
*Night Spirit [HOST] | <grumble grumble>
       burning ember | LOL Dak
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | What NS??
               daisy | exactly kimmie
*Night Spirit [HOST] | <--got logged off
              Dakini | half of the role plays are about humiliation no ?
*Night Spirit [HOST] | <--is back, rubbing behind
           DOMINATOR | Good Evening
       burning ember | <coff> yes we notcied u left NS <blush>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dakini you think so?
              Dakini | hello dominator
              Dakini | some seem to be yes
           GeorgeOTJ | I've never role played humiliation Dak.
              Dakini | dressing a sub as a whore for example dressing a 
                     | male sub as a girl and taking
              Dakini | them out
               daisy | me either
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dominator welcome to the weekly sub pub 
                     | CO--tonight's topic is role playing and
*Night Spirit [HOST] | fantasy
              Dakini | maybe humiliation is the wrong word
              Dakini | but it is fun :)
       burning ember | but i like to play "whore"... it doesnt humiliate 
                     | me in the slightest...
           GeorgeOTJ | Exactly ember, I don't consider that a derogitory 
                     | term
         NH's kímmie | whats humiliating about dressing a male sub as a 
                     | girl?
       burning ember | no... nor i ... or slut...
              Dakini | humiliation plays a big part in the erotic content 
                     | of a role play for some
              Dakini | people
*Night Spirit [HOST] | perhaps humiliation is the wrong word but I see 
                     | wear you are going--it is ok to
*Night Spirit [HOST] | do things in play we normally wouldn't--even if 
                     | humilitating
           DOMINATOR | Night Spirit is this your only spirit
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | humiliation within the D/s concept is not 
                     | derogotory because we know it isn't
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | meant that way.
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dominator please stick to the topic
              Dakini | it is for them kim ive met lots of male subs who   
                     | find it very humiliating and
              Dakini | thats the attraction
       burning ember | oh jees... a Caps letter Dom... one who has to 
                     | shout to make them prove how manly they are
       burning ember | <groans>
           DOMINATOR | Night Spirit explain yourself quickly
       burning ember | DOMINATOR.... please LOG OFF quickly
               daisy | <eyes wide>
           GeorgeOTJ | Dominator............back off
       burning ember | we dont need your rudeness in here
              Dakini | lets try and stick to the topic please
*Night Spirit [HOST] | even dressing as a slut, a girl (males) or even a 
                     | vampire is basically for fun
*Night Spirit [HOST] | would any of us really do it if we didn't enjoy it 
                     | to some extent
              Dakini | yes
           DOMINATOR | If you guys have a BEEF explain now
              Dakini | D/s isnt only about enjoyment
       burning ember | <groaning>
       burning ember | <~~searching for ignore button
              Dakini | its about exploring reactions/ boundaries
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dominator one time and one time only this is the 
                     | sub pub weekly
*Night Spirit [HOST] | conferance--topic is role playing--discussion will 
                     | only be around the topic
           GeorgeOTJ | The beef Dominator is that you or no other comes to
           GeorgeOTJ | this group demanding anything.
              Dakini | role play is all about looking at reactions to 
                     | things, it doesnt ALWAYS have to
              Dakini | be fun imo
       burning ember | well said George <kotc>
           DOMINATOR | says who George
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dakini --I have a question--let's say you really 
                     | like a sub dressed in a
*Night Spirit [HOST] | leather overcoat--but to them it is stupid--would 
                     | you pursue it
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dominator I do
              Dakini | of course
           GeorgeOTJ | Says the whole group Dominator, your arrogance is
           GeorgeOTJ | not appreciated and you'll earn no respect by
           GeorgeOTJ | showing it.
               daisy | <pondering>
           DOMINATOR | George talk to the hand
       burning ember | heck but who doesnt like leather overcoats? <eg>
         NH's kímmie | <thinking>
              Dakini | as i would expect them to pursue me dressing in 
                     | something they liked but i
              Dakini | didnt necessarily
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dominator had to talk to the boot
              Dakini | lol ember
               daisy | part of the job of the Dom/me is to pursue that, 
                     | isnt it?
         NH's kímmie | would you do that Dak???
              Dakini | yes
       burning ember | lol thanks NS <hugs> appreciated
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | twice.
              Dakini | possibly <s>
           GeorgeOTJ | <fumes but doesn't push it in the group>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember sweety anytime
       burning ember | :)
       burning ember | aww Georgey come to ember for a cuddle
     Lord E & Lady A | sorry folk we are going to the West country 
                     | tomorrow so a early start, see you
     Lord E & Lady A | all next week, take care, thanks as usual GPDS, NS 
                     | and Katie
           GeorgeOTJ | <G> Thanks darlin
*Night Spirit [HOST] | so Dak basically a give and take---ok you really 
                     | dig a female in a leather
*Night Spirit [HOST] | overcoat--it is hot sexy you adore it--she says no 
                     | way--then what?
       burning ember | <~cuddles George
              Dakini | if you just stay with what you like and know turns 
                     | you on all the time  you
              Dakini | never expand your fantasy life but just play the 
                     | same ones out again and again
*Night Spirit [HOST] | hugs Lord E and Lady A be good <wink>
     Lord E & Lady A | we will try <weg>
           GeorgeOTJ | Bye Lord E & Lady A
       burning ember | be safe Lord E & LA
              Dakini | id talk about it ns, and try and come to a 
                     | compromise
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | But maybe if she tried it she would like it.
     Lord E & Lady A | bye all
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Dakini excellant point
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Bye LE & LA
       burning ember | u never know until u try.............
       burning ember | but then again.......
*Night Spirit [HOST] | it is fun trying new things--isn't it?
       burning ember | some things i KNOW i dont want to try...
              Dakini | me too
         NH's kímmie | not me
               daisy | i didnt know that i enjoyed a great many things 
                     | until He pushed the point with
               daisy | me
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember such as--and I mean things you have been 
                     | asked to
              Dakini | but they are few, baby, toilet sex thats about it
*Night Spirit [HOST] | well that is undersxtandible
*Night Spirit [HOST] | understandible--needs to type english
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | It has been my experiance that you should never say 
                     | never in the scene. I do
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | things all the time I said I would never do when I 
                     | started.
           GeorgeOTJ | That's another topic all in itself, how hard to push
       burning ember | baby outfits as Dak said.... i would do it if it 
                     | pleased Master... but i wouldnt like it at all... 
                     | toilet sex
       burning ember | also i dont like...
*Night Spirit [HOST] | yep never say never say not at this time
              Dakini | how do people break a scene after
       burning ember | i dont "want" to try it.... but... what choice do i 
                     | have? <g>
              Dakini | so as not to be living it all the time ?
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | "At this point in my life that holds no interest 
                     | for me"
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember ever tried something and felt silly but when 
                     | you did it was so wonderful
*Night Spirit [HOST] | you wanted to do it again and again?
       burning ember | yes <S>
               daisy | <VBS>
       burning ember | Daddy/little girl roleplay... i thought that was 
                     | absolutely silly until i tried it lol
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ok Doms how do you get a sub to try something new 
                     | that basically they think is
*Night Spirit [HOST] | silly
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | How many have tried something they knew they 
                     | wouldn't like just to please
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember ever do your hair in pigtails?
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | someone, and found they loved it after all?
       burning ember | NS - if you saw my hair.... LOL
               daisy | <- loves those pigtails
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember we want to--pictures girl
             folie^A | Hi everyone!!!
       burning ember | <~~doesnt think she could physically get her hair 
                     | in pig tails LOL
             folie^A | hugs ember and kimmie!
       burning ember | Oh NS.. here in the library search for Seddy.jpg
*Night Spirit [HOST] | BTW for any here--you want to post anything erotic 
                     | nature to our bdsm site are
*Night Spirit [HOST] | welcomed too
       burning ember | huggggggggs folie!
           GeorgeOTJ | I've always gone under ther premis with my sub that
           GeorgeOTJ | she be willing to try something once and then we
           GeorgeOTJ | discuss it afterwards, look honestly at how we felt
           GeorgeOTJ | about it. If nothing else it's a growth experience.
             folie^A | hello Night Sprit
               daisy | i agree with George... we do that too
             folie^A | oops Spirit too
         NH's kímmie | folie..gosh...you are up late too!!!!
*Night Spirit [HOST] | hiya folie and welcome to our conferance--this week 
                     | it is role playing and
*Night Spirit [HOST] | fantasy
             folie^A | oh good!
         NH's kímmie | 3 am!
       burning ember | 2am and loving this conference!!!
*Night Spirit [HOST] | anyone here ever get tied by their hair?
        Brian's baby | hello
       burning ember | yes NS...........
             folie^A | Hey its 9PM here kim!  i'm in FL!!!!!
         NH's kímmie | oh...i forgot you went! sorrrrrry
       burning ember | see my hair on the pic... lol... theres a lot to 
                     | tie though
           GeorgeOTJ | Sometimes even a experience you don't enjoy can
           GeorgeOTJ | be very enlightening as to what you DO enjoy or an
           GeorgeOTJ | insight into reasons for related things.
             folie^A | brb a sec
              Dakini | too late for me id better get some sleep all, 
                     | thanks for keeping me awake <s>
              Dakini | night all
       burning ember | hugs Dak
         NH's kímmie | night Dakini! <kiss>
           GeorgeOTJ | Night Dak, sweet dreams
*Night Spirit [HOST] | Night Dakini
       burning ember | ok...
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Just looked at your pic. lots of hair, but i think 
                     | you could do it.
       burning ember | a fantasy roleplay scene...
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Night Dak
       burning ember | of the Rapist/victim....
       burning ember | has anyone got thoughts on that?
         NH's kímmie | i better go to bed too.....sweet dreams and all 
                     | that<S>
           GeorgeOTJ | Touchy one ember
         NH's kímmie | kisssssssssssssses
       burning ember | <~interested
           GeorgeOTJ | Have to be careful there
       burning ember | i know....
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | NS and I do rapes scenes a lot.
       burning ember | i'm interested
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Night kim
       burning ember | heck George we have to be careful with everything 
                     | we say <s>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ember have to be careful of flashbacks and have a 
                     | good concern DOM but yeah I
*Night Spirit [HOST] | do it and love it--but I trust GrandPa
           GeorgeOTJ | I'm interested as well but that's such a emotionl 
                     | and
           GeorgeOTJ | lasting impression.
*Night Spirit [HOST] | I wrote a story on it for a list---maybe I should 
                     | post it
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | I have forced her down, cut her clothes off, raped 
                     | her, calling her insulting
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | names all the while.
       burning ember | hmmm
       burning ember | oh <perk> GPDS!
*Night Spirit [HOST] | but I trust Allyn he would never hurt me for real I 
                     | say red it stops he holds me
           GeorgeOTJ | I'd say there should be a good deal of discussion
           GeorgeOTJ | about it before a Dom insues the scene
       burning ember | i do *love* that roleplay - i wondered if anyone 
                     | else had an interest in it
*Night Spirit [HOST] | I rarely have to, because I know he is safe
*Night Spirit [HOST] | so makes it very fun
*Night Spirit [HOST] | very wicked
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | The key here is that she knows I don't really feel 
                     | that way.
       burning ember | agreed NS... its lovely you have that trust <S>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | before doing something like that you need to know 
                     | and trust who you are with
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | And since she has been raped for real, it is a way 
                     | for her to take ownership of
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | that.
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | She is in control and can stop it at any time.
       burning ember | to be honest it is nothing i have tried... but the 
                     | thought and talk of it really intrigues me
*Night Spirit [HOST] | that is does--no matter what in the fantasy I and 
                     | GrPa are in control
           GeorgeOTJ | I love using physical force. Not abuse, just force.
           GeorgeOTJ | How do others feel about the physical man handling
           GeorgeOTJ | of others?
*Night Spirit [HOST] | no harm
       burning ember | yes...
       burning ember | i love it George...
       burning ember | <g>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | love it George to feel helpless with the man I love 
                     | is very erotic
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | As long as the submissive has the power to stop it 
                     | if it causes a flashback.
       burning ember | thats what i like about "Rape roleplay" .. the 
                     | physical force...
       burning ember | the helplessness...
           nefertiti | may I ask a question, please?
       burning ember | the brutality of it
           GeorgeOTJ | The same with the child / daddy thing then ember?
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | I've go one for you burning, NS has held women down 
                     | for me. How's that for a
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | rape fantasy. (Again consentual.)
           GeorgeOTJ | <listens to nefertiti
       burning ember | no George.....
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Yes nefertiti
           nefertiti | George: Thank you. Who did the choosing here. He 
                     | chose her, or the reverse?
       burning ember | Daddy/child is not like rape to me personally.. its 
                     | a lot more caring.. like nurturing.. there are two
       burning ember | ways... nurtute or the paedaphilic act of 
                     | "incest"...
           GeorgeOTJ | Whom are you refering to nef?
           nefertiti | whatever you are talking about
       burning ember | GPDS.... i love that as a fantasy....
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | nefertiti, we are talking about roleplaying.
           GeorgeOTJ | If you are talking about D/s relationships in 
                     | general
           GeorgeOTJ | nef, the sub choices the Dom
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | It is consentual.
           nefertiti | George: Oh I see. Thankyou
           nefertiti | thank you too Grandpa
       burning ember | <~mind buzzing now <G>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Feel free to ask questions.
           GeorgeOTJ | That is to say....there is no Dom untill the sub 
                     | gives
           GeorgeOTJ | of themself to the Dom
           nefertiti | <thinking>
       burning ember | GrandPa... going bck to earlier.. about my hair... 
                     | somebody suggested some kind of "hair
       burning ember | bondage"... ever heard of that?
           nefertiti | no
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | burning now wants to be held down. . .
           GeorgeOTJ | Tell me you have long hair ember <hands folded>
       burning ember | <giggles>
*Night Spirit [HOST] | yes ember I used to have long braids to my rear 
                     | many folks talked of tieing
*Night Spirit [HOST] | them to posts
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | No, but I would imagine it would be some method oif 
                     | securing you by your hair.
       burning ember | umm George... pic is under filename  Seddy.jpg
           GeorgeOTJ | Thanks ember <S>
           GeorgeOTJ | Well, baby is throwing a fit, I best be off
       burning ember | i'm interested in that
       burning ember | sounded very erotic
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | I love to grab a handful of hair. Very effective.
               daisy | <- has that long hair<S>
               daisy | smoochies George
       burning ember | <~has about ten handfuls of hair rofl
           GeorgeOTJ | Thank you folks, it's been most educational
       burning ember | hugs George be safe
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | How many here use safewords?
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ok any last words?
               daisy | i do
       burning ember | yes
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Bye george.
       burning ember | well...
*Night Spirit [HOST] | <--uses them
       burning ember | i tend to work on the Red, yellow, green system...
               daisy | me too ember
               daisy | amber and another word for red<S>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Best system as far as i'm concerned burning
       burning ember | especially if scening with people i dont know...
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | It gives you the ability to slow a scene down or 
                     | change it without stoping it.
       burning ember | ive only ever twice had to say red... and both were 
                     | at last weekeneds party.....
               daisy | <S>
       burning ember | i had many limits stretched
       burning ember | lol
       burning ember | in a good way of course
*Night Spirit [HOST] | ok folks thanks once more for stopping by and 
                     | joining into out CO--I wish to
*Night Spirit [HOST] | thanks Katie and Grandpa and all of you
       burning ember | awww  <pout-sniffle>
               daisy | Hugggss NS
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Stretching limits helps us grow. . .  sometimes 
                     | anyway.
               daisy | smoochies lil D
       burning ember | huggggs NS the hostess with the mostess!!
*Night Spirit [HOST] | next week's CO is about Switches---the folks who do 
                     | it both ways...hugs ember,
*Night Spirit [HOST] | daisy
*Night Spirit [HOST] | hugs crickett
       burning ember | <~has a *lot* to say about that
       burning ember | <S>
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | Thank all of you. this wouldn't work without all of 
                     | you.
               daisy | <wondering where lil d is when i am asking 
                     | questions in 10>
       burning ember | awwww i'm here daisy
               daisy | <smooch> crickie
       burning ember | with my Domme side <s>
       burning ember | lol
               daisy | u shoulda been there last nite lil d
       burning ember | <kotc> GPDS
               daisy | i had LOTS of questions going on then
       burning ember | thankyou both
       burning ember | awww big D...
               daisy | Huggs G'pa
       burning ember | i'm all ears now sweetie...
               daisy | <- always in need of some sort of assistance
 GrandPaDeSade[Host] | huggs right back at you daisy
       burning ember | <~here now... not going anywhere : )
     ********** 7/5/98  6:19 PM End logging Sub Pub - D/s.