Reprinted with permission of the author Electric Switch of the West (pseudonym) 1982,1983 and may not be copied or redistributed. All rights and copyrights reserved by the author. Visit www.bdsm-education.com to learn more from the author and get the current version of the BDSM checklist and The BDSM negotiation form.
This checklist should be filled out by a Sub and provided to their Dom/Top before playing with them. This will provide a quick "head-start" to identifying limits, negotiating and finding common ground for play.
Dominants may wish to work through the checklist, to get a better handle on their specific interests. Switches should go through the checklist twice; one persons Dom and Sub interests may be very different.
For each item, you need to provide two answers:
For experience, write YES or NO next to each item to indicate if you have ever DONE that activity. Mark N/A if it does not apply to your gender. For willingness, indicate for each item how you feel about DOING that activity by rating it on a scale of NO or 0 to 5.
"?" means you don't understand what the item is attempting to describe.
NO means you will NOT do that item under any circumstances (a hard limit).
0 (zero) indicates you have utterly no desire to do that activity and don't like doing it in fact, may loath it) and would
ordinarily object to doing it, but you would permit the Dominant to do it if it they really wanted it. (sometimes called a "soft
limit").
1 means you don't want to do or like to do this activity, but wouldn't object if it was asked of you.
2 means you are willing to do this activity, but it has no special appeal for you.
3 means you usually like doing this activity, at least on an irregular/occasional basis.
4 means you like doing this activity, and would like to experience it on a regular basis.
5 means the activity is a wild turn-on for you, and you would like it as often as possible.
Mark with an asterisk (*) those items which you are willing to do only with your current sex partner(s), but not with casual play-partners. Note any additional information or nuances which might be important for your Dom to know in the margin to the right. For example under diapers you might wish to distinguish between "wetting" and "soiling". There is intentionally some overlap between categories. Unless otherwise stated, the Sub is the recipient/target of the activity.
Experience Willingness Notes & Nuances
yes/no NO or 0-5
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*Willingness quick-key?= Don't understand this item.
*= I will do with current sex partner only.
NO= I WILL NOT DO that item under ANY circumstances (a hard limit).
0= No desire, don't like, will permit if special to
Dom (a soft limit).
1= Don't want to do, but will.
2 =Willing to do, but has no special appeal.
3 =Usually LIKE doing, on an irregular/ occasional basis.
4 =LIKE doing, would like it on a regular basis.
5 =WILD TURN-ON, would like it as often as possible.
Reprinted with permission of the author Electric Switch of the West (pseudonym) 1982,1983 and may not be copied or redistributed. All rights and copyrights reserved by the author. Visit www.bdsm-education.com to learn more from the author and get the current version of the BDSM checklist and The BDSM negotiation form.