Edge Play
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(For the purposes of this article I will
assume that your submissive is NEW to the BDSM lifestyle and that discussions
with you have identified base limits which you have used as boundaries in all
encounters, conversations and play to this point!)
BDSM unlike virtually any other lifestyle offers the potential to extend the
experiences of the individual into new realms and areas that they have never had
the opportunity to explore before. In the beginning EVERYTHING is a challenge.
From the action of merely speaking an honorific title such as Mistress/Master to
learning the basic responses, positions and commands that you desire for them to
utilize when with you. These basic foundations are CRUCIAL to building the type
of relationship that grows, evolves and flourishes. But, at some point your
submissive GETS IT! They conquer that phase of the learning process and your
exchange together in 'scene' may be reaching a plateau.
You have spent considerable time in conversation with your submissive about
'their perceived limits!' I say it this way on purpose. In any relationship
limits are guessed at. In a new sub they are to some extent completely unknown.
A person cannot know what they like or dislike if they have never had ANY
occasion to experience them. There are some ABSOLUTES - these (in general may be
CHILDREN and ANIMALS - SCAT is also Very often a FIRM TABOO!) Beyond these
absolute limits there is a HUGE playing field.
EDGE PLAY is the action of offering NEW challenges to the Edges of play you and
your submissive are already familiar with. Every physical challenge is equally
mentally challenging as it is asking your submissive to reach beyond where they
think they can...for you...for them! It may be as simple as progressing from one
set of clamps to another...from spanking to the introduction of the crop. It may
be as complex as sensory deprivation and trust play.
When is it time? FIRST it is CRUCIAL that you have a strong established TRUST!
Second, you must have a pretty good working knowledge as to your sub's mind set,
their attitude, moods, desires. Explore things conversationally at first.
Express thoughts about say (a photo you have seen and shared), a scene you saw
in a movie or read about...see WHAT makes your sub nervously excited. This is
called 'planting a seed'. It forewarns your sub of where YOU are thinking. It
allows them to talk to you in ADVANCE and prepare mentally and FANTASIZE!!! This
is important when your relationship is fairly young. It is fragile. TRUST is so
very important that you cannot THRUST something on them 'in scene' that they
MIGHT consider a violation of their limits. Out of scene later such a
transgression may destroy your relationship and all of your hopes and dreams...
To me, the peak of EDGE PLAY is within the mind itself. It is to take the
submissive further, to trust deeper, fly higher than they have ever believed
possible. For each submissive the tools used to assist them are different, it is
a truth that every one is different and unique. Discovering their personal
triggers and using them is perhaps the greatest challenge and joy a dominant can
experience!
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